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Why They Take You For Granted (& How To Break The Cycle!)
Why They Take You For Granted (& How To Break The Cycle!)
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It sucks being taken for granted. When someone acts like you’re there to serve their needs. Like you’ll stick around no matter how they treat you. Like you’re replaceable and don’t matter. You start to feel a piece of furniture rather than a person. So why are they treating you this way?
I’m going to give you the reasons your partner takes you for granted and what you need to do to make them stop.
Hi, I’m Jessica Boss. And you can take for granted that I’ll be here every week with new tips to help you make your relationship the best it can be. If you want more passion in your life, subscribe now. I’m here to show you the way to the love you want.
But first off, you need to ask yourself: do they know I feel this way?
Resentment
Sometimes what may seem like taking you for granted is really resentment. This is easy to miss because they aren’t even always aware of it themselves. They’re holding onto deep negative feelings towards us that come from dozens of tiny unresolved conflicts.
This kind of resentment unconsciously puts them into the state of competition with us. They feel like we’ve wounded them and they’re trying to get even by taking more than they’re giving back. They’re trying to get back some power, respect, or love they feel they’ve lost.
2. You’re a doormat
Assertiveness is important in relationships as it is in life. If you put their needs above yours, always let them have their way, and let them walk all over you then this becomes the dynamic in your relationship. It’s a hard pattern to break. It’s not your fault you’re being taken for granted but it is up to you to make the first move if you want them to change. More on that later.
3. They’re over it
Sometimes people mentally check out of a relationship instead of cutting things off. Maybe they’re afraid to be alone. Maybe they’re confused about what they want. Maybe they’re a coward, just waiting for you to break it off. In these situations it’s common for people to stop putting in effort and stop showing appreciation. They don’t show you they value you because they don’t. Don’t let this happen to you.
If your relationship has become so distant that you’re worried there may be no hope left,
go to JessicaBoss.com/quiz. This free quiz tool will take a measure of your relationship and let you know if you can save it or if it’s over. Just answer honestly. It only takes five minutes.
4. They’re busy
Some people’s lives are full of stress, pressure, and constant obligations. They’re always behind the 8 ball, rushing off to run errands or have meetings. And when they do spend time with you they’re too mentally exhausted from the rest of their life to pay you the attention you deserve.. This can be just as damaging to a relationship as other kinds of mistreatment if not moreso.
Change things up
When we’re being taken for granted it’s often a matter of falling into a pattern, a routine. Any change in your life, no matter how small, can interrupt this pattern and change the way you two interact and treat one another. Changing your life can help in ways you don’t expect and that it’s not always by attacking a problem directly that you’ll have the most success.
Spend focused time together
Often times hanging out means staring at our phones while half watching something on Netflix. This can make you feel alone even when you’re together. Plan a date or activity together that will require your full attention. Rent a tandem bicycle. Take a cooking class. Go for a ride in a hot air balloon. It doesn’t matter what you do. It just matters that you make the effort to focus on connecting without distractions. This can be a great way to get your attention back onto what matters: each other.
Spend less time together
In economics, it’s all about supply and demand. If something is in short supply, it’s going to be more valuable and people will want it more. This is a principle you can bring to your relationship.
So there you have it. These are some powerful ways that you can get the attention and respect that you deserve in your relationship.
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  • @perryhowells5666
    @perryhowells5666 День тому

    This coach is bad, dont listen to her. She probably takes anything she can get from her exes and knows nothing of a lasting relationship. Never try to "hook up" with them at the end of the date or try to spit game to get there. Its your ex, youve done all that already. You're here because you miss them, you love them and want to make it work and do it differently than the first time. If anything hug, be friendly, dont talk about the past. Its a new leaf, be in the present and grow slow. P.s. this coach is desperate for her exes.. they dont want her for a good reason. Thats why she puts out on the first date. Gross

  • @countmorgrimm9906
    @countmorgrimm9906 2 дні тому

    My ex fiancé was my entire life. It's been almost a year since she ended it. I'm so heartbroken.

  • @repulse_wkey4432
    @repulse_wkey4432 12 днів тому

    I left her I did the biggest mistake of my life o tried my best to get her back but it didn’t work now I’m paying for my actions

  • @LoveSpell-ik5bb
    @LoveSpell-ik5bb 13 днів тому

    I was able to get back with my wife with Dr.Kwale love spell. Contact Dr.Kwale now on kwaletemple@gmail. com for a powerful love spell.

  • @WildSkyMtn
    @WildSkyMtn Місяць тому

    Girl was so anxiously attached to me I never even had a chance to initiate conversations or texts. Then she broke up with me because she was anxious. Lol wtf women

  • @agostinhojose6430
    @agostinhojose6430 Місяць тому

    I it awas amazing i am gonna follow you evrey time you post these topics

  • @agostinhojose6430
    @agostinhojose6430 Місяць тому

    Thank you Jassica , for this explanation it made me clear about this topic

  • @ruready705
    @ruready705 Місяць тому

    Just leave bye👋

  • @legalfictionnaturalfact3969
    @legalfictionnaturalfact3969 Місяць тому

    Saying that these misbehaving people don't know what they're doing... Isn't really correct. They don't do it to their bosses. They don't do it to their mommies. Or maybe they do. But they are selective and who they do it to. And that is how you know that you need to DUMP HIMMMMM

  • @joycegoes266
    @joycegoes266 2 місяці тому

    Jaante ho we must forgive. Why god said us to forgive? God told us to forgive so that we might get healing. So forgive your ex. Bless your ex. God told bless those who persecute you.

  • @Americanpatriot-zo2tk
    @Americanpatriot-zo2tk 2 місяці тому

    Well, you mentioned the devil that we know yeah it’s pretty bad I can’t seem to get her out of my mind.

  • @hareshck7202
    @hareshck7202 2 місяці тому

    You gave more reasons for breaking up and being single then wanting to save your relationship. how ridiculous.

  • @Supersleuth0987
    @Supersleuth0987 2 місяці тому

    Dangerous game, I’m going through a breakup right now and I’ll hang on while there’s a chance…but if I find out I’ve been replaced with another man i definitely wouldn’t want her after that.

  • @jpbart1390
    @jpbart1390 2 місяці тому

    oNE RULE FOR TAKING Back your ex: DON'T! There's always a reason why an ex is an ex.

  • @rubakhaled-zm7uo
    @rubakhaled-zm7uo 3 місяці тому

    i got dumped for religious reasons

  • @jangertvandyk-ht5gk
    @jangertvandyk-ht5gk 3 місяці тому

    I just want to give up

  • @brandonwest5841
    @brandonwest5841 3 місяці тому

    "You will never be good enough for the wrong person." SCG

  • @dealer77005
    @dealer77005 3 місяці тому

    Good stuff

  • @sam_so_nice
    @sam_so_nice 4 місяці тому

    17 to 24? 😂

  • @ajbgomezwalker8384
    @ajbgomezwalker8384 4 місяці тому

    Me and my ex are broke up yesterday. And he decided to stay friends with me after we broke up. But it's hard for me to accept it cause he started treating me as a friend only and while he treats me as friends, I'm starting missing of how he treats me as his girlfriend.

  • @duha25us
    @duha25us 4 місяці тому

    He's honest, decent. But when I told him I had been in a relationship before he started humiliating me he has become so much desrespectful. These days m not having any communication with him . But I dunn wanna lose him. What can I do to mainten my relationship?

    • @ajward9112
      @ajward9112 Місяць тому

      Walk away from him. I don't know what kind of relationship you two have or had, but honestly - if he's showing his true colours just because you had previously dated someone else, then do yourself a favour and walk away. Any self-respecting guy would still be respectful, unless you had broken up by cheating or something low. I'm assuming it was just a normal breakup (and if I'm wrong, that's not my business either way). If you did right by this guy, and he can't handle his insecurities, then he needs to either step up, own his actions and be better, or you need to walk away to protect yourself.

  • @nicholasrohmann3132
    @nicholasrohmann3132 5 місяців тому

    Horrible video

  • @tristencampeau6571
    @tristencampeau6571 5 місяців тому

    But what if I’m tired..

  • @jessi547
    @jessi547 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for the advice

  • @itumelengmosailane1192
    @itumelengmosailane1192 5 місяців тому

    Revenge is best served cold

  • @samsonite3716
    @samsonite3716 5 місяців тому

    what? you are not hungry but you eat anyways? i lost 8kg in 2 weeks haha

  • @chearygbangs261
    @chearygbangs261 5 місяців тому

    Breaking up have really save my relationship

  • @EbayvideosR
    @EbayvideosR 5 місяців тому

    I messed everything up on Valentine’s Day. This was my first valentines at the age of 41 and I asked her if she would like to be my gf. She said yes. 20 minutes later, I started having doubts and told her. She was upset that I didn’t know how to be affectionate and didn’t want to show me anything. There were also a lot of awkward silences between us. That’s when I told me it’s best for her to find someone that will cater her needs because I don’t feel I’m the one. She ended up slapping the back of my head hard twice, punched my arm and poked my face. She also verbally assaulted me for 2 hours and threatened to get someone to stab me. After dropping her home, she called me and asked me to let her pay her dues and I gave us a chance. Two days later, she was telling me about a guy that was flirting with her and made her feel like cloud nine. She told him if it was a week earlier she’d have gone out with him. Already she was making me feel insecure. Next day, she was telling me about another guy that she had a lot in common. I told her to go for it because we’ve only just started a relationship and nothing happened. One time, I rang her and she was flirting with a couple of guys on the phone. She kept blowing out whenever we were suppose to meet up unless I was spending money on her. I spent £1000 in 7 weeks. She never made me feel that we were in a relationship and I told her it’s best to end it with me because she can do so much better. She accused me of self sabotaging and manipulative. I was insecure, negative and pretty boring to be honest. She was an extrovert and I was an introvert. She’s living life and I let my life pass by me. I ended the relationship out of love for me because I knew I was making her feel sad with my insecurities. Towards the end, there was no spark at all. We were better as friends but never expected this to go down hill. I forgot how to kiss and she was horrified and decided to pull away. Had to learn watching UA-cam videos. I miss her and wanted her back, even begged a few times but she wasn’t interested. I contacted her in November and showed her my car. That’s when she said she was willing to allow me to take her out providing I pay her £225 for her nails, make up, feet, hair and petrol. After paying the money, she blew out three hours before collecting her and told me she had no intentions of meeting me in the first place and just wanted to hurt me so much so that I can leave her alone. My confidence and hunger was completely destroyed. Didn’t expect this at all but I probably deserved it after what I did on Valentine’s Day. Finding all this hard because I have no friends and she was my first ever girlfriend. She told me I was never in a relationship with her and it was a situationship

  • @raydragerns3657
    @raydragerns3657 6 місяців тому

    Whyyyyy do i care what she thinks and feels about me. She is so selfish and immature, she drags me down and gaslights me. She's an ungrateful leech. Why. Do. I. Want. Her. To. Like. Me.

  • @cm6384
    @cm6384 6 місяців тому

    It been 7 months and im still hurting. She did me so dirty with no remorse. Some reason i think about her daily

  • @johnnycalderon9951
    @johnnycalderon9951 6 місяців тому

    Im nervous af lol

  • @sharchannel1836
    @sharchannel1836 6 місяців тому

    They found someone else or got back with their ex is why...

  • @zuali111
    @zuali111 6 місяців тому

    He dumped but i still don't know what is my mistake. He is so clever. God is with me in this bad times

  • @Tomgkl
    @Tomgkl 7 місяців тому

    She’s on a rebound a week after . Think no hope for me 😅

  • @Alexxander100
    @Alexxander100 7 місяців тому

    Call me crazy but i noticed something, I had 3 , ok 4 long 4 5 years relationships , 1 of them was 6 months After every single breakup ( i not even once iniciated the breakup , they left me , as a side note ) ,i was agitated, hole in the chest, constantly thinking about them even when i was not thinking .......until ,one RANDOM day , when everythig stops , NOTHING WORKS absolutely nothing you explained in the video , but every single relationship after 1 2 years , left me , all of a sudden numb, like, puff....GONE , i'm trying to think about her , NOTHING, the mind is automaticaly ignoring her image , something that i couldn't say yesterday for example, honestly feels SO weird, especially when it happend in every long relationship i had, and the weird part is, you cant controll it, my last relationship was 5 years, engaged, ....TODAY , after 4 years, i felt that DEEP mental and psihical ,relief ,like something is over by default , like the burden i was carying for her , was lifted from my shoulders And i wondering if i'm alone in this weird ......stuff

  • @user-rh4gg4tz5j
    @user-rh4gg4tz5j 8 місяців тому

    I thought i was make it better but i made it worse 😂😂..i forgive myself..she ain't gat noasssatall by then 😂i did that to let her feel good without asss but she 😅😅😅at me

  • @asmisamaze1234
    @asmisamaze1234 8 місяців тому

    Dumpers are just people who don’t truly love their ex. They think they did but it was nothing but an attraction They don’t have a heart, they only feel bad cuz they had to do the breakup and look like a bad guy and that’s it. Unless the dumpee cheated, abused, manipulated or did anything unforgivable. Other than that dumpers are just bored

  • @najim-fx6626
    @najim-fx6626 8 місяців тому

    Don't post pictures with other men/women to make them Jealous if you still want them back. Make them wonder if you really seeing someone else by going out and having fun and happy. Posting women/men you just gonna help your ex get over you and move on farther away

  • @arsenelupiniii8040
    @arsenelupiniii8040 8 місяців тому

    Yikes! I have never seen so much emphasis placed on codependency. Love is a funny thing, certainly makes people make bad choices. When people are making bad choices, they tend to spend. The concept of love is cute when folks are young and don't see it for what it is. Too bad "love" is such a money maker for big corporations. For example what are you buying for all your "loved ones" this Christmas?

  • @Lovedrug96
    @Lovedrug96 8 місяців тому

    I will marry her

  • @steveblackmore8480
    @steveblackmore8480 8 місяців тому

    I don’t like the frog analogy

  • @tptendani
    @tptendani 8 місяців тому

    Thanks for the best advice

  • @andrewsnow5007
    @andrewsnow5007 8 місяців тому

    Shitty thing we call life? Come on now

  • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
    @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 місяців тому

    I want someone who will NOT want to break up with me/never want to. I want someone COMMITTED like my parents.

  • @behroozshahdaftar4209
    @behroozshahdaftar4209 8 місяців тому

    This is also true of friendships.

  • @hounddig
    @hounddig 8 місяців тому

    Thich tok

  • @deedee19791
    @deedee19791 8 місяців тому

    Right, a small piece..

  • @deedee19791
    @deedee19791 8 місяців тому

    Options aren’t the issue here, it’s obsession, control freak and a total weirdo is who they are.

  • @DanteGuerrero-ed6rs
    @DanteGuerrero-ed6rs 9 місяців тому

    Just imagine then fucking someone else. You over it yet?

  • @daphne3717
    @daphne3717 9 місяців тому

    This little heifer yelling at us to get off the couch smh